Tools and Inspiration for Empowered Living

EFT and Aging

Aging in a culture that fears death and denies old age presents very real challenges. We often accommodate our culture’s aging expectations by pretending we are in a state of perpetual youth through extremes of diet and exercise, cosmetic surgeries, and total immersion in the “lookism” – Mary Pipher’s contribution to our cultural lexicon – that makes us live as though we are always in front of a camera. 

It doesn’t have to be this way, and for many adults who have learned how to focus on the meaning of aging, it is not. After all, aging is considered a rewarding experience in cultures that value insight and wisdom. We North Americans can learn to value our aging bodies, minds, hearts, and spirits as a unique source of the knowledge aging bestows on those who surrender to and find value in this transformational process. Many of us are already articulating the value of aging in our personal and professional lives. 

Baby Boomers, people born in the years between 1944 and 1964 (the original designation was 1944 to 1953 according to Brainiac Blogger Joshua Glenn) are in the very best place to contribute to positive attitudes about aging. We are millions strong, well educated, energetic, and, for the most part, in touch with the spiritual dimension of life. This last characteristic primes us to view the aging process not through the lens of loss, but rather through the “What Now?” lens, one of our favourite questions. 

When we feel stuck in a depressing view of ourselves as we age, daily use of EFT will radically alter our experience of growing older in this youth-oriented culture. As a woman on the cutting edge of boomerhood, I tap into a wealth of personal experience when I speak of EFT's ability to transform aging issues, including: 

  • body-image distortions;
  • exercise resistance;
  • the sense of physical betrayal;
  • physical pain;
  • lack of physical energy;
  • health-care challenges;
  • themes of loss (including loss of purpose, loss of times past, loss of relationships, loss of work, loss of freedom);
  • memory fears (including fear of Alzheimer’s and dementia);
  • financial uncertainty; and,
  • spiritual, emotional, and intellectual isolation.

EFT doesn’t “manage” our fears about aging; rather, it extinguishes them, leaving us free of the drag that prevents us from enjoying what we do have as older adults – the insight and wisdom that come from decades of experience, the unique perspective on power that we sense in the oldest trees and rocks in our natural environment, and the juiciness we feel when we are utilizing all our skills, abilities, and passion in our personal, social, community, and work relationships.

To discover for the first time or rekindle the joy and appreciation of the aging process as an individual or as part of an exciting group process, email jane@winterblooms.net or call (802)533-9277.  Just a few of the benefits of individual and/or group work include changing our relationship with time, with our physical selves, with our Mother Earth (our first and best teacher in all things), and with our sense of wholeness.

Should fear temporarily win out and insist on resistance to change, place one hand on the heart and with the other tap gently  below the knuckles of the baby finger and ring fingers.  Even briefly tapping in this way returns us to the flow of life, regardless of our aging fears. In the stillness of this reconnection to the heart's field, notice a rising sense of wonder and peace supportive of our ability to make positive, transformational decisions despite the cultural prejudices against "being old."