Tools and Inspiration for Empowered Aging

EFT and Aging

Aging in a culture that fears death and denies old age presents very real challenges. We often accommodate our culture’s aging expectations by pretending we are in a state of perpetual youth through extremes of diet and exercise, cosmetic surgeries, and total immersion in the “lookism” – Mary Pipher’s contribution to our cultural lexicon – that makes us live as though we are always in front of a camera. 

It doesn’t have to be this way, and for many adults who have learned how to focus on the meaning of aging, it is not. After all, aging is considered a rewarding experience in cultures that value insight and wisdom. We North Americans can learn to value our aging bodies, minds, hearts, and spirits as a unique source of the privileged knowledge aging bestows on those who surrender to and find value in this transformational process. Many of us are already articulating the value of aging in our personal and professional lives. 

Baby Boomers, people born in the years between 1944 and 1964 (the original designation was 1944 to 1953 according to Brainiac Blogger Joshua Glenn) are in the very best place to contribute to positive attitudes about aging. We are millions strong, well educated, energetic, and, for the most part, in touch with the spiritual dimension of life. This last characteristic primes us to view the aging process not through the lens of loss, but rather through the “What Now?” lens, one of our favourite questions. 

When we feel stuck in a depressing view of ourselves as we age, daily use of EFT will radically alter our experience of growing older in this youth-oriented culture. As a woman on the cutting edge of boomerhood, I tap into a wealth of personal experience when I speak of EFT's ability to transform aging issues, including: 

  • Body Image Distortions;
  • Exercise Resistance;
  • A Sense of Physical Betrayal;
  • Physical Pain;
  • Lack of Physical Energy;
  • Health Care Challenges;
  • Themes of Loss (including loss of purpose, loss of times past, loss of relationships, loss of work, loss of freedom);
  • Memory Fears (including fear of Alzheimer’s and dementia);
  • Financial Uncertainty; and,
  • Spiritual Isolation (including emotional and intellectual isolation) 

EFT doesn’t “manage” our negative feelings about aging. Rather, it extinguishes them, leaving us free of the drag that prevents us from enjoying what we do have as older adults – the insight and wisdom that come from decades of experience, the unique perspective on power that we sense in the oldest trees and rocks in our natural environment, and the juiciness we feel when we are utilizing all our skills, abilities, and passion in our personal, social, community, and work relationships.

To discover for the first time or rekindle the joy and appreciation of the aging process as an individual or as part of an exciting group process, screw up your courage and call or email Jane at 802-533-9277 /  jane@winterblooms.net.  Just a few of the benefits of individual and/or group work include changing our relationship with time, with our physical selves, with our Mother Earth (our first and best teacher in all things), and with our sense of wholeness.

And, should fear temporarily win out and insist on resistance to change, we find a remedy by putting one hand on our heart and tapping gently on it with the fingers of the other hand just below the knuckles of the baby finger and ring fingers, "I am, I am, I am."  This phrase puts us in the flow of life, regardless of our age or negative cultural beliefs about aging.  After a time, adding, "Iam, like a forest; I am, like the layers of soil on the forest floor; I am, like creatures finding shelter in forests everywhere . . . " we notice a rising sense of wonder and peace supportive of our ability to make positive, transformational decisions.